You are capable of creating the life you can’t stop thinking about

January has come to an end and that means it’s time to turn your New Year’s resolutions into reality. January can feel like a long and sleepy month. After the holiday season, I tend to settle into hibernation mode and allow winter habits to take hold. It’s a month for rest and reset. We look at the year that just came to a close and ask ourselves the big questions.

  • Did I accomplish what I set out to achieve last year?
  • Am I moving towards the person and life that I want?
  • How can I set myself up for success in the new year?

Maybe you started the year with momentum and felt motivated to make a real change in your life. But, perhaps you’re feeling lost and directionless about where you’re going. The truth is, you are absolutely capable of creating the life you can’t stop thinking about. You can create your dream life.

One of the most motivating statements is this:

You can transform your life in less than a year.

5 Steps to Create Your Dream Life

Where can you start to create your dream life? Implementing real change begins with a vision. However, sometimes it’s easier to convince ourselves that we don’t know what we want because we’re too afraid to go after it. This is the first step to changing your life. Realize that deep down, you know what you want.

1. Be honest with yourself about what you want.

In a typical visualization meditation, the meditation teacher will encourage you to get quiet, count your breathing, and settle your turbulent thoughts. In this tranquil space, you can connect with your inner self and ask the pertinent question: What does my dream life look like?

The more specific you can be in your visualization, the better. Envision what you look like, what you’re wearing, where you’re living, what your home and space looks like, who you’re with, how you feel, and what you’ve accomplished.

A disturbing voice in your head may interject and tell you that reaching this place is impossible. Gently dismiss these fears and get curious about your daydream. Do not limit yourself. Imagine the most idyllic, aspirational, and dream-like version of your life that you can.

To create your dream life, start by asking yourself:

If I could snap my fingers and enter my dream life, what would it look like?

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2. Tap into your emotions.

Once you remove self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and other blocks, it’s time to harness the power of your emotions to connect with your future. Joe Dispenza famously studies the connection between gratitude and manifestation. He encourages his students to evoke feelings of gratitude for events and blessings that have yet to take form.

As you sit silently and imagine your dream life, begin to attach feelings to the images that you’re seeing. Imagine how incredible you feel as you look at yourself in the mirror. Imagine how you will feel as you spend time with your partner, or walk through your beautiful living space, or achieve the professional milestone you have always aspired to accomplish.

To further enhance your positive feelings, listen to an uplifting soundtrack or frequency that helps you tap into feelings of excitement, gratitude, love, and well-being. You can also think back to times in your life when your heart was bursting with joy. Connect with these powerful emotions as if you are currently living the life you’re imagining.

3. Break down big goals into small steps.

Looking at your dream life is exciting, but it can also feel daunting, especially if your current life feels far removed from the one you want. Remember that a lot can change in a year. You could clock in hundreds of hours at the gym and transform your body, participate in days worth of therapy and heal self-destructive patterns, quit smoking, move to a new country, save thousands of dollars, start a new career path, or meet a person who changes your life forever.

Although we can’t always predict what the year will bring (flashback to 2020), we can turn seemingly unmanageable goals into small tangible actions. One of the easiest ways to transform your life is by reorganizing your day. For me, a solid morning routine can instantly shift my lifestyle.

  • Wake up earlier: Set your alarm 10 min earlier each day to slowly adapt your circadian rythmn
  • Meditate: Add 10 minutes of meditation to your morning
  • Reflect: Review your annual goals on a daily basis for just 5 minutes
  • Move: Jumpstart your day with a burst of exercise that you enjoy (morning walk, stretching, or heading to the gym)
  • Eat: Make a substantial and healthy breakfast
  • Replace: Subsitute one bad habit with a healthier one each month (replace scrolling on your phone in the morning with reading a few pages from a book)

Read the Ultimate Morning Routine blog for more details about crafting your perfect morning ritual.

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4. Intentionally exit your comfort zone.

Humans are creatures of habit. We gravitate to people, situations, and places that we find familiar and predictable to offset unnecessary stress. I moved to a new city less than a year ago and at first I was excited about exploring new places and making myself uncomfortable. I went on dates with different people, I researched and explored new restaurants, and I intentionally got lost on runs, findings unique routes through my neighbourhood.

As time went on, I realized that I slowly selected my favourite places and stopped veturing outside of them. Soon, I became a regular at one coffee shop. I typically ran the same route every week to the beach. I routinely visted the same bars and restaurants on the weekend and hung out with the same groups of people. There’s nothing wrong with creatng a stable routine, but over time routine can make us resistant to change and discomfort.

This is why people tend to stay too long in jobs or relationships that stop working or look back on the last five years and realized they have aged but not grown up. Every week, challenge yourself to try something new. This could be as simple as listening to a new podcast or as complex as starting a new career. Get comfortable with change and approach new situations with curiosity and excitement rather than fear.

If nothing changes, nothing changes.

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5. Be willing to fail.

Did you know that you don’t have to be good at any of your hobbies? Too often we allow perfectionism to stop us from starting a new venture. If you’re afraid to fail, realize that failing isn’t only part of the process, but it can be a positibe experience.

One of my goals this year is to continuously push myself at the gym and lift heavier weights. I realized that I wasn’t progressing when I allowed fear of failure to stop me from trying. I thought that it would be better to attempt a personal record that I know I could achieve.

However, I watched videos of athletes and gymnasts who failed over and over again attempting things that they knew they were incapable of doing in that moment. Each failure got them closer to their new personal record, until their goals became their new normal.

As I watched these athletes drop their weights, fall off balance, or lose the race, I didn’t judge their failures or dismiss them as embarassing or incapable. My reaction was the exact opposite; I felt immense respect that they were willing to fail.

If you’re learning to ski, you will probably fall down. If you’re trying to speak a new language, you will probably butcher the accent or stutter over your words. If you’re entering a new job, you will likely not know all the answers and have to ask questions. Don’t let your pride stop you from trying.

Be brave enough to be bad at something new.

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Create your dream life: Live a life you’re proud to look back on

If you want to create your dream life, you have to start with your “why”. It’s easy to get caught up in day-to-day responsibilities and lose sight of the bigger picture. You have one life to live at this time, as this person and no one is going to take control of your life for you. No one can tell you what you really want or outline exactly how you’re going to get there.

Oftentimes I would look up to people who appear conistsently motivated and driven. I wondered how those driven people could wake up every morning and be so intentional about their life direction. David Goggins is an inspirational ultra-marathhon runner, record-breaker, and former marine who embraces a tough-love approach to reaching his goals. He said that his biggest fear is looking back on his life and not reaching his full potential.

David Goggins also admits that he isn’t always motivated to reach his potential. Instead of relying on motivation, he relies on self-discipline and follows a plan even on days when he feels exhausted, defeated, or close to giving up.

If you lack the motivation to create the life of your dreams, start small. Realize that your life is precious and that you have the potential to change yourself and the world around you. When you feel discouraged, or fear that you’re sliding back into old ways, remind yourself that you want to live a life that you’re proud of and today is the best day to start.