How Do I Figure Out What to Do With My Life? 

This is How We Reach the Finish Line.

We are born into this world knowing that we have to contribute. We have different sets of skills and interests and most of us are put into a school system. At a young age we choose courses that hopefully guide us into our “field”. We’re told “find our passion” and get a job that makes a difference or a lot of money, either one works.

We should aspire to generate wealth, be physically attractive or at least influential in some capacity, start a family, become well-known, make a difference, and we should definitely be special at something. The question, “how do I figure out what I want to do with my life?” should be answered at age 16, worked at from ages 20-65 and accomplished by retirement. Now we’re free to go on cruises with our soulmate and pass on our legacy to our 20 healthy grandchildren. We won the race. Right?

Getting to the Finish Line and Realizing It’s a Mirage.

It used to surprise me that many modern spiritual leaders were birthed from abandoning a career in a Fortune 500 company, an office on Wall Street, or a worldwide tour of the rockstar lifestyle.  We are led to believe that these are the destinations to which we aspire, so why do the people at the finish line look so unfulfilled?

Jim Carrey said: “I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.” This is everything. This is why people achieve their dreams and have breakdowns. This is why people win the lottery and fall into depression. This is why people become famous and drown in drug abuse.

It’s time we question what we are told our end goal should be. What are you working toward? When will you finally achieve happiness? I’m struggling with this right now. I want to have a soul’s purpose, I want to help people, and I want to make a difference. Sometimes I can’t tell if it’s my soul calling me to this or my ego seeking gratification.

Run In The Right Direction, Or Stop Running?

“Follow your bliss.
If you do follow your bliss,
you put yourself on a kind of track
that has been there all the while waiting for you,
and the life you ought to be living
is the one you are living.
When you can see that,
you begin to meet people
who are in the field of your bliss,
and they open the doors to you.
I say, follow your bliss and don’t be afraid,
and doors will open
where you didn’t know they were going to be.
If you follow your bliss,
doors will open for you that wouldn’t have opened for anyone else.”

― Joseph Campbell

 

Joseph Campbell gives us the wise and brave advice to follow our bliss. We often believe that this means following or finding something outside of ourselves. A life-changing concept is: this bliss we follow is contained inside us right now. We can discover this package of perfection in three major ways.

1. Gratitude: Be grateful for exactly what you have in your life right now.

We are taught that we need to hustle for happiness. We have to get work done, achieve more, and own more to live the “dream”. The people who get there are often the first to realize that it doesn’t make a difference if you’re not practicing gratitude.

Infusing every day with the richness of gratitude is the fastest way to experience joy and happiness. Gratitude for everything little thing can actually become overwhelming. When times are tough be grateful for each breath keeping you alive, your senses, your physical abilities, your health, your experiences, your awareness, everything.

2. Presence: Bring life energy to everything you touch.

Presence lights up every moment. Presence turns the world from 2d to HD. Suddenly every sound, smell, sight, and feeling is magnified in awareness. You become hyper-sensitive to the world around you and observant to the miracles of everything presented to you.

We have become accustomed to muting our senses and shutting out our surroundings. An active effort to reset and take everything in quite literally changes your life. Just as Albert Einstein said, “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

3. Passion: Fill every action, every word, and every thought with passion.

Maybe you don’t need to “find your passion” maybe you need to bring it. We are taught that our passions are entities outside of ourselves: a job, an activity, or an experience that fills us up with joy. We just need to find it or chase it.

The reality is, we have a burning passion inside us that can be tapped into at any time. We can passionately make our bed in the morning, we can passionately wash dishes, and eat a salad at our desk with passion. The combination of gratitude and presence is the secret recipe for consistent passion

When we live in the moment and appreciate the present with gratitude, a warm light of passion washes over us. This is the life energy that changes everything.

How Do I Figure Out What to Do With My Life? You Stop Running.

  • You stay present in the life you have now.
  • You don’t buy into what people tell you to want or seek.
  • You stop searching for fixes outside of yourself.
  • You pay attention to the moments that light you up with bliss.
  • You let yourself be guided by these blissful moments.
  • You let your challenges be your GPS system.
  • You allow this moment right now to be your destination, always.